Beauty In The Cracks – My “Youth To Wisdom” Makeover

I’m accepting afraid about the makeover I committed to doing… I advised abetment out, but I’m traveling through with it, behindhand of the comments I may get. You may be wondering, why is she so afraid about a makeover-isn’t that something women attending advanced to? But this isn’t just any makeover. It’s array of a makeover in reverse. The accommodation to go blah is my additional advancing out of the closet. Because instead of analytic younger, I’m stripping out the hair dye and donning glasses so I can agilely look… older. My 52nd altogether is fast abutting and to celebrate, I’m traveling from atramentous hair and no glasses, to argent with glasses. I’m aswell attempting to lose some austere weight-this is traveling to be a above overhaul. I’m documenting the action with pics, and an commodity about my animosity as I attack to embrace my crumbling self, and abstain hitching my brilliant to the abasement that can accompany a seismic about-face like this. I’m a counselor, so I accept every appropriate to analyze myself with a mid-life crisis… except I’m not in mid-life anymore. However, this absolutely qualifies as a crisis.

The point of it all is to bless my advancing maturity: to beam and account it rather than complaining it. Given what I’ve gone through, accession at age 52 in one section is affidavit that I kept going. Above that, agreeably giving up the actualization of adolescence is a assurance that my physique kept growing… maybe that’s what I’m documenting. I’m not pausing my activity to agenda that I survived the suicide of my daughter-it’s added than that. I’m pausing to see that in the action of surviving, my hair afford it’s color, my apparition went from bad to worse, and the crinkles and creases absitively all of their own accordance to accomplish a account about me. My physique is saying: there is adorableness in the cracks. But can I say the aforementioned thing?

When I attending in the mirror what I see aboriginal is the damage. There are age spots on my hands, and added hair than any woman should accept to abide on her lip. My eyelids are angled (that’s the latest find), and the “fine lines” accept revolted, cementing themselves into abysmal crevasses area I smile and frown. I will not even acquaint you what my close derma is accomplishing all of it’s own accordance (it has something to do with a turkey). I ambition I could see above these alarming changes, because I don’t like to feel this way about myself. The 40′s affected aloft me the acrid absoluteness that my adolescence was over, and I’ve been angry it for the accomplished decade. At 52 I’m giving up the fight. I’ll abandonment the hair dye, and put my glasses on. I’ll lose the 50 pounds my doctor says I charge to lose so I can reside an added 10 years because al of a sudden I realize… I’m ganna charge it.

I don’t like the abstraction of accepting old; I don’t anticipate that I’m alone. If I told my Facebook accompany I was traveling to attending my age a lot of of them affably accurate me, alms an agog “thumbs up,” but I wondered how they really acquainted central about aging. Will they anticipate I’m as appealing if the aboriginal affair they see is blah and the glint of artist glasses? Will they reallythink I’m still cool? I adore women who accept managed to age alluringly rather than attending like a exhausted tire, because it’s a lot of plan to accumulate it all together-you know, the look. There’s appearance to accede if you wish to advance some claimed panache. If I can’t be young, at atomic I can be stylish. I admiration how important even appearance will be in my final years? As the river flows, will it ablution abroad my endure bit of affair over what humans think, and will I carelessness myself to amethyst hair? Gosh I achievement not… but you never know.

What apropos me the a lot of about crumbling is that I’ll alpha bottomward in my adeptness to chronicle to accepted ability and acquisition myself in a abiding time-warp of 1982. It’s already happening. I acquisition myself abuse at the hipsters and their contemporary beards. I cull up next to a disciplinarian who looks like a adolescent abaft the caster and I panic. Who gave this kid the keys to the ancestors car?! The blow is traveling to the doctor and acumen the candied adolescent adult you’ve been affably chatting with while cat-and-mouse for the doctor is in actuality your doctor, and aggravating not to arise abashed because she holds your aerial activity in her alike little hands. I’m re-thinking 1982… it wasn’t such a bad year.

I’m calling this a “reverse makeover” because a lot of women appear out analytic adolescent than before; I’m accomplishing the opposite. But if you anticipate about it, is affective advanced absolutely traveling in reverse? Isn’t affective advanced the accustomed administration we’re declared to move? Again why do a lot of of the middle-aged women I apperceive still accept themselves shoved into reverse? I started allurement myself these analytic questions if my blah hair couldn’t be quelled any longer. It’s appear to this, I said acutely to myself… this is it, the jumping off point. There’s no added abstinent or appearance it. The blah has won the accommodation war, your apparition is about as acceptable as a moles, and if your close and accoutrements accessory any added someone’s traveling to aberration you for the American flag. I absitively appropriate again to let myself off the hook. Why exhausted myself up for the inevitable? I capital to shout: I am a 50-something woman, and if you wish to address me if my accoutrements flap, go appropriate ahead-because I’ve becoming a little respect, dammit.

If you don’t like the Adolescence to Acumen Makeover after-effects I will not be offended-just don’t acquaint me. I’m still alive on admiring me… all of me, even the chips and cracks. This all-embracing your acumen being is tougher than it looks.

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